The best time of the day for self care
Let me address the question of when during your busy life you could focus on self-care: in most families the best time is after your children are asleep. This is yet another excellent reason for getting your children and teens into the habit of going to bed earlier. Not only is it good for them; it’s also good for you!
As much as you love your children and enjoy hanging out with them, you also need some down-time every day, some time when you’re not focused on being a parent or on getting things done. Spending some time every day focusing on taking care of your own needs will help you to replenish your energy and enthusiasm and determination. It will help you to be the parent you want to be, and also the partner that you want to be.
So here’s what often happens. Once the children are in bed and you can count on having some distraction-free time, it’s tempting to dive into tidying up or sending that urgent email or tackling something on your to-do list. But if you want to be more positive, firm and consistent, you need to develop the habit of making some time every day to fill your emotional ‘tank’. |